24. Relative of Guru Amardas Ji
Baba Tej Bhan (d. 1533), affectionately referred to as Tejo in early chronicles, was the father of Guru Amar Das, Nanak III (1479 - 1574). A Khatri of the Bhalla clan, Tej Bhan was born to Baba Hari ji and Mata Milavi of Basarke Gillan, a village 12 km southwest of Amritsar. He was married at the age of 12 to Bakht Kaur (also known as Lachhmi, Lakhmi or simply Lakkho) from a Duggal Khatri family. Guru Amar Das, born on 5 May 1479, was the eldest of their four sons, the other three being Ishar Das, Khem Rai and Manak Chand. The family lived partly by agriculture and partly by trade. According to Kesar Singh Chhibbar, Bansavalmama, Baba Tej Bhan died in Kattak 1590 Bk, corresponding to October 1533.
Mata Bakht Kaur ,, also called Lakhmi or Lakkho, was the mother of Guru Amar Das (14791574). Mata Lakkho is the name mentioned by Kesar Singh Chibbar, Bansavalinama Dasan Patshahian Ka, Born in a Duggal Khatri family, she was married to Baba Tej Bhan of Basarke Gillan, a village 12 km south-west of Amritsar. Four sons were born to her, Guru Amar Das being the eldest. The other three were Ishar Das, Khem Rai and Manak Chand.
Mata Mansa Devi (d. 1569) was the wife of the third Sikh Guru, Guru Amar Das. She was the daughter of Bhai Dev Chand, a Bahil Khatri of Sankhaira, a small town in Sialkot district (now in Pakistan). Her marriage to Guru Amar Das took place on 11 Magh 1559 Bk/ 8 January 1503, but the couple remained childless until a girl, Bibi Dani, was born to them in 1530 followed by three more children, Bibi Bhani (1535), who later married Bhai Jetha (who became the fourth Sikh Guru, Guru Ram Das, See article Platforms of Jetha), Bhai Mohan (1536) and Bhai Mohri (1539). Mata Mansa Devi died at Goindval in 1569. They had four children - two sons and and two daughters. See chart below.
1. Baba Mohan (b. 1536), the eldest son of Guru Amar Das, was born to Mata Mansa Devi at Basarke Gillan, near Amritsar, in 1536. He was of a taciturn disposition and most of the time kept to his room in Goindval absorbed in study and contemplation. He had in his possession manuscript collections of the Gurus' hymns inherited from his father. When Guru Arjan (1563 - 1606) undertook the compilation of the (Guru) Granth Sahib, he sent Bhai Gurdas and then Baba Buddha to borrow these from him, but Baba Mohan refused each time to part with them. Finally, Guru Arjan himself went to Goindval. He sat in the street below Baba Mohan's attic serenading him on his tambura, a string instrument. Mohan was disarmed to hear the hymn and came downstairs with the pothis (books) which he made over to the Guru. These volumes are still extant and are known as Goindval Pothis. Gurdwara Chubara Baba Mohan Ji in Goindval perpetuates Baba Mohan's memory. Among the relics preserved in the Chubara Sahib complex is the palanquin in which the pothis were carried to Amritsar and then brought back to Goindval.
2. Baba Mohri (b. 1539), the younger son of Guru Amar Das, Nanak III, was born in 1539 to Mata Mansa Devi at Basarke Gillan, in Amritsar district of the Punjab. Unlike his elder brother, Mohan, who lived a retired life, Mohri was of a more active temperament and spent most of his time looking after the Guru's household. He accepted without demur the nomination of his brother in law, Bhai Jetha, to be his father's spiritual successor as Guru Ram Das. According to Sarup Das Bhalla, Mahimd Prakdsh, Baba Mohri also rejoiced at the nomination of Arjan as the next Guru in preference to the latter's older brothers, Baba Prithi Chand and Baba Mahadev.
3. Bibi Dani
4. Bibi Bhani (19 January 1535 - 9 April 1598), the daughter of Guru Amar Das, was destined to play the most central role that any woman or mother has played in the history of Sikhi.
Bibi Bani was the :
Grandmother of Guru Hargobind,
Great Grandmother of Guru Tegh Bahadur
Great, Great Grandmother of (Guru Gobind Singh)
Her two brothers, Bhai Mohan ji and Bhai Mohri ji were not to succeed to the Guruship as her husband Bhai Jetha became the 4th Guru, taking the name of Guru Ram Das. (Interestingly her two older sons, like their maternal uncles, were also bypassed as the Guruship passed to their youngest brother, Guru Arjan Dev.)
Bibi Bhani ji (1535 - 1598) was born to Guru Amar Das and Mata Mansa Devi on 19 January 1535 (21 Magh 1591 Bk) at Basarke Gillan, a village near Amritsar. She was married on 18 February 1554 to Bhai Jetha (whose name was later changed to Guru Ram Das), a Sodhi Khatri from Lahore. Bhai Jetha later moved to Goindval which was an upcoming Sikh town and carried out voluntary service (Sewa) in the construction of the Baoli Sahib (sacred well). Guru Amar Das was very impressed with the Sewa performed by Bhai Jetha and so a marriage was arranged between Bibi Bhani, his daughter and his dedicated devotee, Bhai Jehta. After their marriage, the couple remained in Goindval serving the Guru and the congregation (Sangat). Later on, as the completion of the Gurdwara at Goindval neared, Guru Amar Das deputed Bhai Jetha with the task of establishing a new Sikh center at a location that first was known as "Ramdasar". The new center was to be built on a piece of land gifted, according to one version of history, by Emperor Akbar who, after a visit to the Guru, had been so impressed by the Langar of Guru Amar Das that he offered a substantial Jagir to support what he saw as noteworthy and noble cause. That bit of history also tells us that the Guru first, turned down the offer, but the wily Emperor then offered the jagir as a wedding gift for Bibi Bhani. Noticing that the waters of the pond were said to have 'curative' powers, Bhai Jetha expanded the pond into a Sarovar that he named Amritsar. It was in the center of this 'Lake of Amrit that the construction of the Harmandar Sahib was begun. Today the city that took its name from a sarovar, is known around the world as Amritsar.
Her dedication to the Guru
Today Bibi Bhani is remembered as a symbol of service. In Sikh history, she is known as an embodiment of service. A popular story mentioned in old chronicles describes how devotedly Bibi Bhani served her father. One morning, it is said, as Guru Amar Das was absorbed in meditation, Bibi Bhani noticed that one of the legs of the low wooden seat on which the Guru sat was about to give way. She at once put forward her hand to support the stool. As the Guru ended his devotions, he discovered how her hand was bleeding from the injury she had sustained in supporting the broken leg of the seat. He blessed her, by saying that one day her progeny would inherit the Guruship. Her two older sons, Prithi Chand (1558) and Mahadev (1560) did not inherit the Guruship, for it was her youngest son Arjan (born in 1563) who would become the Fifth Guru. Guru Arjan Dev was, undoubtedly, brought up as a model GurSikh. It was Guru Arjan Dev, who compiled the Adi Granth, by collecting all the writings of the earlier Gurus, to which he added the teachings of several earlier pious teachers of the Hindu and Muslim faiths. On its completion the Granth was installed in the Harimandir Sahib, which was completed by Guru Arjan. Today the Adi Granth, is known as the Sri Guru Granth Sahib, having been installed as the perpetual Guru of the Sikhs, by the 10th and last human Guru of the Sikhs, Guru Gobind Singh ji, it is now the central and Perpetual guide of all Sikhs.
There is special status of Bibi Bhani in the life of Guru Amardas by the way she cared for her father proving that there was no difference between a son and a daughter. Both can equally serve their parents. There is a superstition in Punjabi culture that a father does not get any service done from a daughter, but Bibi Bhani used to serve her father before marriage and kept serving him even after her marriage. We can learn a lesson from her way of serving that one can continue doing worldly duties along with daily religious service or worship. She never allowed omestic circumstances to become obstacles as she to serve her father humbly and with devotion, even after she became the mother of three sons. She very gladly and regularly kept giving bath to her father and used to keep a watch so that no body disturbed him during his meditation. So much so that when a leg of that bath-stool was broken, she kept her hand underneath it, so that his meditation was not disturbed. Only Bibi Bhani could do that.
A committed wife and mother
Bibi Bhani was married in the beginning of 1553. She served Bhai Jetha not only as a husband but also as a saint. She was so contented that she never complained about the poverty of her in-laws. She kept serving her father even after her marriage, as her in-laws were local. She continued doing her worldly duties along with the service of her father. Her husband continued serving in the common kitchen even after his marriage. They had three sons, Prithi Chand, Maha Dev, and Arjan Dev. Prithi Chand was arrogant, lazy, and dishonest, but still wanted the Guruship after his father. He wanted that his Mother should recommend him for Guruship. She advised him that the decision made by his father would be on merit and she remained neutral. When Guru Arjan Dev was selected for Guruship, Prithi Chand misbehaved with his father. Bibi Bhani snubbed Prithi Chand and admonished him. She said to him that the decision made by his father was impartial. This has been the tradition from the time of Guru Nanak. She also said, “Your father was also selected on the basis of his service and humility.” Bibi Bhani always stood for truth. Her eldest son, Prithi Chand, was ignored due to his haughty nature and the youngest one, Guru Arjan Dev, was made the fifth Guru by his father. Prithi Chand claimed that he was the fifth Guru and through his agents collected the offerings of the devotees before they could see Guru Arjan Dev. He, thus, tried to fail the common kitchen run by Guru Arjan Dev. Bibi Bhani and Bhai Gurdas, a devotee of Guru Arjan Dev, foiled the conspiracy of Prithi Chand and the common kitchen continued as usual. After the death of Guru Ram Das, Bibi Bhani helped her son, Guru Arjan Dev, in every activity undertaken by him and advised him She persuaded Guru Arjan Dev to remarry after the death of his first wife.
Bibi Bhani left for her heavenly abode at Goindval on 9 April 1598.
Son In Law
1. 4th Guru Ramdas ji
2. Bhai Rama
He was married to Bibi Dani who was older of the two daughters of Guru Amar Das